It is very important for all students of self-protection to understand the predatory mentality. Many guys are just wanting to be appreciated and gain a friendly rapport with a woman, but there are some with harmful intentions and women must look out for these.
(see our video on 3 Types of Predators)
We need to understand that there is a right way, and a wrong way to go in gaining a ladies’ attention and (if seeking) affection. The two main things are: Do not be too brash or persistent, and be respectful of the ladies’ space, state (especially if they’ve been drinking) and of any decision that they decide to make.
It’s not enough to say, “Be safe.” Most Millennials these days have heard it so much that they dismiss it. Making the wrong decisions, allowing lines to be crossed, barriers to be breached, and not exercising your voice and (when needed) commanding respect – you do yourself a huge disservice.
When you’re out… be a social scientist. In conversation, try to get to the core of what they guys wants. Ask yourself questions, especially a guy that sounds overly-charming. It’s not that someone is or is not charming – it’s why they feel the need to “charm” you! Think of the word charm as a verb, not an adjective and already be more in control.
MICHAEL & JENNIFER JOYCE
Outfoxxed Self-Defense Program